Dr. Roshini Raj Talks Tight Jeans, Toilet Infections & Male Menopause

The new book What the Yuk? promises to answer our most strange and embarrassing sex and body-related questions. Recently, author Dr. Roshini Raj sat down with the women of The View to answer questions featured in the book plus co-host concerns. We actually learned a few things.

What the Yuk: The Freaky & Fabulous Truth About Your Body on The View

Q) Can tight jeans hurt my body?

A) Dr Raj says yes! Tight jeans can put pressure on your bladder, irritate delicate vaginal skin and even cause nerve damage on your thigh.

Q) Why am I a drinking lightweight before my period?

A) Dr. Raj says that during PMS the progesterone fluctuations decrease alcohol tolerance. So it's not just in our heads!

Q) Public Toilets - How unhealthy is it to sit down?

A) Dr. Raj says surprisingly, "Not that bad." Our skin not our genetalia is what touches the toilet. She says that as long as you have no cuts you’re fine. She reminded The View crew not to put purses on the bathroom floor. A surprising fact that I've never considered: The toilet tissue roll in the public restroom is a hotbed of germs because every flush spreads feces and urine. Bring your own toilet paper. And yes, I'll still be squatting.

 

Q) Is it normal to have orgasms all the time, like at the desk or gym.

A) Dr. Raj says that many women have spontaneous orgasms without direct stimulation. Whoopi Goldberg offered up her TMI about riding the bus, pun intended.

Q) Are colon cleanses helpful?

A) Dr. Raj says no. "There's no medical reason to do it. If you feel backed up add fiber." And be careful with any backdoor insertions. Yes, ma'am.

Q) Is there male menopause?

A) Dr. Raj says, absolutely, and it's called andropause. Testosterone falls in aging men but not as dramatically as estrogen decreases in aging women. Joy Behar offered up the scientific evidence of older men leaving their wives.

Q) When bathing suit shopping can you catch anything from the protective paper crotch inside of the suit?

A) Dr. Raj says yes. It is very dangerous to take your underwear off when trying on garments that have graced other crotches. Ewww.

What the Yuk? just hit stores and women are already buzzing. Buy What the Yuck? by Dr. Roshini Raj wherever you buy books.

Teresa & Her Nephew: Real Housewives of New Jersey

 

Who is Teresa's nephew? Real Housewives of NJ Reunion; Teresa confronts Danielle over nephew comment.


Patterson, New Jersey’s favorite daughter Teresa Giudice of Real Housewives has once again erupted, much like Mount Vesuvius. If you get that reference then you’re officially a Real Housewives head. The catalyst for Teresa’s eruption once again was good ole Danielle Staub.

Part 1 of the Real Housewives of New Jersey Reunion was barely out of the Atlantic City gate when Teresa started goading Danielle about her generally inappropriate existence. Danielle responded to Teresa’s taunts with the seemingly innocent question, “Did you acknowledge your nephew yet? Did you?”

Little did we know that, uh-oh, them’s fightin’ words. We were so innocent then. Teresa is from Patterson, bitch! Sigh.

Teresa who insists that she is “really nice” with her home NOT at all in foreclosure jumped up out of her seat, line-backered Andy Cohen into his seat and barreled over to Danielle. Check out the video below.

Since then people sadly could give a damn about Barack Obama’s Oval Office Address. All that we want to know is, what’s up with Teresa’s nephew?

Top 5 RHONJ Teresa Nephew Theories:
1) Teresa’s Story:
“In April, my newest nephew was born off camera. (No, not Jacqueline’s baby; Jacq and I are not related.) And no he’s not sick. He’s perfect and beautiful and we’re blessed to have him in our lives. If you all remember, I was scheduled to do the live Bravo Chat Bubble for a Real Housewives of New York episode the night he was born, and I was at the hospital so long, I was late logging in. So, yes, of course I was at the hospital when he was born!”

2) Teresa’s “nephew” is Joe’s Love Child with a woman named Tara. This theory has been out there for a while. There is a rumor that it was verified by Ramona from Real Housewives of New York. I am partial to this story although Jacqueline clarifies via Twitter: “No, there is no Tara or love child.Lol!Tamra from OC HW was out 2dinner w/us the night of accident,maybe that's the blond pple saw.”

3) Teresa’s nephew is half African American because her brother is married to a black woman, and was thus ostracized from the family. This is probably the strongest “Who is Teresa’s nephew?” theory.

4) Danielle’s Story:
“There is no resolve with a clown who calls anyone garbage. Remember to stand your ground even if the ground seems to move stay still it'll move around you.”

5) Caroline’s Story:
“I expected yelling, screaming, and tears. I NEVER expected Andy to get tossed like a rag doll. I was in complete shock when that happened. Actually, I had to compose myself because I wanted to cry. Seriously, I did. When Teresa jumped off the couch and approached Danielle it was literally within the first ten minutes of filming. The only thing going through my mind at that moment, beyond the obvious W-T-F is going on, was that I couldn’t sit through hours and hours of this. If this is happening now, what’s it going to be like when we get to the real issues? Thank God it never got to that level again, it was an ugly moment. Ugly, ugly, ugly.”

Now the only remaining Housewife mystery: What the hell is that hairy thing that Danielle pulls from her bag in part two of the Real Housewives of NJ reunion?

Stay tuned. Quotes from the BravoTV Blogs. Watch the Bravo Real Housewives of NJ Teresa nephew video fight with Danielle and Andy here.

UPDATE: Teresa's sister in law Melissa Gorga has been confirmed as a new RHNJ castmate. Radaronline reports that Teresa is refusing to film with her. Stay tuned!

Summer Salad Recipes 101: How to Make My Delicious Cheap & Easy Salads

This summer I decided to indulge in the beauty of yummy salads. 

For the past few years I have ordered my groceries from Fresh Direct but recently, a new Whole Foods-style  organic market opened near my neighborhood. I went in to check it out and the food looked so beautiful, the fruits and veggies in particular that I started picking things up and had a basket full of groceries before I knew it!

I had to learn to shop in a supermarket again after basically checking off food from a website. Shopping in a supermarket is such a visceral experience. And this will sound ridiculous, but I was astounded at how much cheaper the food was -- even though it was organic.

My favorite thing about a salad is that you can add almost anything you enjoy to leaves and you've got a meal! I prefer to use baby spinach raw instead of lettuce so that I can get more nutritional value. Balsamic vinegar is my favorite dressing although I sometimes just use fresh lemon juice so that I can taste all of the flavors of the salad. Nuts and fresh fruits of the season are also a good edition. I usually add chicken or fish to my salads but do what works for you.

These salads are not side dishes at all. They are the main course!

Sexy Summer Salad #1

Ingredients: Baby Spinach, Sliced Plums, Lemon Essence, Chick Peas, Corn. Walnuts would also be great with this salad.

Sexy Summer Salad #2

Ingredients: Baby Spinach, Crumbled Pepperjack Cheese, Boiled Eggs, Pitted Black Olives with Coconut Water.

Sexy Summer Salad #3

Ingredients: Baby Spinach, Corn, Channa / Chick Peas, Salmon Cake, Lemon Zest, Red Pepper.

Sexy Summer Salad #4

Ingredients: Pitted Black Olives, Baby Spinach, Baby Carrots, Salmon Cake, Lemon Essence, Balsamic Vinegar -- and Coconut Water for a refreshing beverage.

Sexy Summer Salad #5

Ingredients: Baby Spinach, Corn, Sliced Nectarines, Lemon Zest, Black Pepper.

I'm Hosting the 6th Annual African American Literary Awards!

Press release:

The Show Goes On…

6^th Annual African American Literary Awards Boasts Stellar Lineup of Literary Luminaries –including honorees Dr. Cornel West, Sonia Sanchez, Hill Harper and Terrie Williams; Hosted by Author and TV Personality Abiola Abrams

New York (August 26)  The African American Literary Awards are scheduled for Thursday, September 23^rd at Landmark on the Park.  Getting to year 6 has been no easy feat. Founder and Executive Producer, Yvette Hayward says, “Similar awards programs have come and gone yet we prevail and continue to grow the Awards as a brand. We get bigger and better each year!”  The 2010 honorees include Dr. Cornel West, Sonia Sanchez, Hill Harper, and Terrie Williams. Reader favorites are nominated across 29 categories from Fiction to Comedy to Self-Help, with authors ranging from Bernice McFadden to Blair Underwood and Tananerive Due to Pearl Cleage. This is also the first year that the Awards will recognize a charitable partner, Everybody Wins!, which is an organization dedicated to improving literacy among low income children (www.everybodywinsny.org).

After working with authors for several years, Yvette Hayward noticed that there was a conspicuous absence as it related African American authors. They had been historically and habitually un- or under-recognized when it came to their literary accomplishments. Books penned by African Americans as well as African American readership were and are an ever growing segment in the marketplace, having mushroomed into a multi-dimensional, commercially viable segment where readers spend over $375 million on books by black and non-black writers. In light of these facts, she decided to take action. And, in 2004, The African American Literary Awards Show was conceived and produced. It was the first awards show of its kind, filling a large vacuum in the literary community. Six years after its debut, the Awards are still one of the only consistent vehicles in existence that recognizes African American authors.

The Awards has seen its fair share of literary (and other) celebrities, having hosted the likes of Walter Mosley, Eric Jerome Dickey, Victoria Rowell, Zane, Victoria Christopher Murray, Hill Harper and many others. Past celebrity presenters/attendees include Zane, Gossip Girl’s Nicole Fiscella, Day 26, Power 105’s morning show host Free, G. Garvin, Finesse Mitchell and Broadway star Chester Gregory.

2010 sponsors include Barnes & Noble, The New York Daily News, TheGrio.com, Soft & Beautiful, WBLS, and Omerge Alliances. The show will be hosted by Author and TV Personality Abiola Abrams. For more info contact Joy Doss at LiteraryAwardShow.com.

Abiola on LSD: Love, Sex, Dating and Drama Episode 13, BDSM 101 PLUS Cheating

For Episode 13 our guests were BDSM expert, Official Perverted Negress and writer Mollena Williams and filmmaker Evelyn S. Oliver. Evelyn S. Oliver's latest short film Testimony of A Devotee is about adultery. Mollena demonstrated how to use simple household items for S&M that you can purchase from a 99 cents store. The recession hit everyone!


This show was hot, hot, HOT!! Watch the mayhem.

VIDEO: BDSM 101, Bondage, Adultery, Cheating on Abiola on Love, Sex, Dating, Episode 13

Abiola on LSD: Love, Sex, Dating Episode 12, Erica Watson & Mo Beasley

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Comic Erica Watson from TV Guide Network's Sex On TV and Urban Erotika poet and educator Mo Beasley join me on Abiola on LSD: Love, Sex, Dating and Drama to answer the eternal question, Does Size Matter?

This episode of the weekly Shovio show also celebrates my birthday with zany gifts such as penis pasta, a size matters measuring ruler and other goodies. Producer Kristal the Texas Dread is on hand with a front row seat to the mayhem of this weekly co-ed bachelorette party. Abiola on LSD: Love, Sex, Dating & Drama airs weekly on Shovio.com Wednesday nights from 10-11pm EST. You can chat live, beam in on webcam or just watch the show. You can also subscribe on iTunes.

If you can't see Love, Sex, Dating episode 12 above, click here to watch the video.

Luxury Lingerie & Sex Toys on Bravo's Rachel Zoe Project, Kiki de Montparnasse

Remember when The Real Housewives of New York had a sex toy moment? Well on season 3 episode 4 of The Rachel Zoe Project, Bravo once again gets freaky with a sexy shopping excursion. 

Celebrity stylist Rachel Zoe and her hubby Rodger Berman are celebrating a wedding anniversary that mostly involves Marc Jacobs and fashion week. To bring the spice Rachel's sister Pamela accompanies her brother in law Rodger to buy sex toys and romantic lingerie for Rachel from the glorious Kiki de Montparnasse boutique. Awkward.

Kiki de Montparnasse is one of those if you have to ask the prices of the instruments of pleasure you probably can't afford them. I contacted Amanda from the Kiki DM publicity department to inquire about doing a special edition of my Kiss & Tell Live Revue reading series to honor New York Times bestselling author Zane, creator of the hit Cinemax series Zane's Sex Chronicles, and two months later I am still waiting for Amanda to call me back!

I know that many of you are not yet feeling recession recovery so I tracked down budget alternative versions of the exquisite Kiki de Montparnasse sex toys and lingerie seen on Rachel Zoe. Am I not your very best Passionista girlfriend? 

Here are the Kiki de Montparnasse items that you were lusting after on The Rachel Zoe Project plus budget alternatives from the AdultSexToys.com website.  Descriptions from the product sites. 

1) Belle De Jour Romper, $195, Kiki de Montparnasse. "Striking and sensual, this silk chiffon wrap-style romper features dramatic proportions edged in tonal satin for a dark glamour."

• Budget Alternative: Peek-A-Boo Leopard Romper, $24.58, Adult Sex Toys. "Cupless romper features double ribbon ties on each side in contrasting hot pink."

2) Lace Beaded Blindfold, $195, Kiki de Montparnasse. "Indulge in the opulence of this rich silk blindfold and seduce your lover. Intricate French lace is hand-beaded for a distinctive, seductive elegance."

• Budget Alternative, Black Fur & Satin Blindfold, $7.10, Adult Sex Toys. "Black faux fur lined blindfold with a satin front and elastic head strap."

3) Deluxe Intimacy Kit, $295, Kiki de Montparnasse. "We have designed and hand-selected exquisite collections of inspired indulgences that not only enhance a life of intimacy, they help create it."

• Budget Alternative, Kama Sutra Strawberry Weekender Kit, $22.61, Adult Sex Toys. "Travel-sized portions of your Kama Sutra favorites includes: Strawberry Dreams Oil of Love, Strawberry Dreams Stimulating Pleasure Balm, Strawberry Dreams Honey Dust and feather applicator, Sweet Almond Massage Oil, Love Liquid Sensual Lubricant."

4) Pasties, Kiki de Montparnasse. Inquire at the store.

• Budget Alternative, Bound By Diamonds G-String & Pasties, $9.92, Adult Sex Toys. "An exquisite collection of seductive fetish gear hand-crafted in soft supple patent leather, then adorned with lustrous white crystal."

5) Fantasy Collection French Maid, $550, Kiki de Montparnasse. "Complete you fantasy wardrobe with the seductive French Maid. Lustrous duchess satin and silk charmeuse with flirty ruffles on this complete set enrich role play and inspire the romantic imagination."

• Budget Alternative: Retro French Maid, $55.84, Adult Sex Toys. "She might be coming over to clean the house, but not much gets done when this naughty french maid shows up in a Lycra halter style dress with polka dot trim, eyelet ruffle detail, and headpiece."

6) Motif Vibe Multi Speed Vibrator, $135, Kiki de Montparnasse. "This petite personal vibrator is designed for ultimate comfort. Featuring our beautiful signature motif on a lustrous shell, this sensuously crafted vibe offers multiple speeds for pleasure options."

• Budget Alternative: Candida Royalle's Natural Contours in Pink, $16.68, Adult Sex Toys. "Compact, yet powerful! The Petite Natural Contours offers three varying speeds."

7) Gold Handcuffs, $350, Kiki de Montparnasse. Only love can set you free in our 24K gold-dipped handcuffs. Regulation handcuffs for adult consensual fantasy play; 24K gold-dipped handcuffs and keys."

• Budget Alternative: Authentic Police Handcuffs, $33.79, Adult Sex Toys.

Fun, fabulous and freaky at any price.

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See you live on Wednesdays from 10-11pm EST on Shovio.com for my new weekly show Abiola on LSD: Love, Sex, Dating & Drama!

Groupie Kiss and Tell: Kat Stacks and Souljah Boy

Remember just a year ago when clean cut teen rapper Soulja Boy Tellem appeared on The View and won hearts by touting profanity-free positive hip hop music? If not then maybe you know that Soulja Boy's carefully crafted good guy image allows him to introduce other teen pop groups like The Vistoso Bosses. Either way, all of that has gone to hell with no freaking handbasket.

Kiss and Tell groupies have a long history from the days of Elvis, The Beatles and Motown to New York Times bestselling author Karrine Superhead Steffans. The movie Almost Famous follows the groupie lifestyle of the self-declared "Band Aids." Now, your little sister or daughter's favorite rapper Soulja Boy Tellem finds himself accused of being a cokehead with with erectile dysfunction and bad sex practices courtesy of uber-groupie Kat Stacks, a video blog and social media like Twitter.

***Watch the NSFW  Video: Kat Stacks talks about Souljah Boy.

Elin Nordegren Speaks About the Pain of Adultery & Divorce Recovery

Through the Tiger Woods sex scandal we've heard Tiger's apology, mistress voicemails, web and a even a Saturday Night Live skit but one voice has been silent. 

Until now we (the nosy public) haven't heard from the jilted wife of Tiger Woods, Elin Nordegren. With her divorce finalized Elin is speaking to People Magazine. She will not be doing any more interviews as she wishes to remain private.

5 Revelations from the Elin Nordegren Interview in People Magazine About Tiger Woods

1) Elin says: "I never suspected, not a one. For the last 3 and a half years when all this was going on; I was home a lot more with pregnancies, then the children and my school... I felt stupid as more things were revealed -- how could I not have known anything?" This is super surprising. I guess that since Tiger Woods was probably always cheating there were never any signs of different behavior. Plus he had all of those enablers around him.

2) Elin says: "Money can't buy happiness or put my family back together." We agree Elin, but the reported $100 million divorce settlement can sure grease the wheels of healing. Good for you.

3) Elin says: "There was never any violence inside or outside our home. The speculation that I would have used a golf club to hit him is just truly ridiculous. Tiger left the house that night, and after a while when he didn't return, I got worried and decided to look for him. That's when I found him in the car. I did everything I could to get him out of the locked car. To think anything else is absolutely wrong." We'll retain our own opinions on the said golf club incident. 

4) Elin is studying towards a college degree in psychology. We feel you, Elin. Deep betrayal makes us want to find out, what the hell was he thinking too!

5) Elin says: "I wish him all the best in the future, as a person and as an athlete. I know he is going to go down as the best golfer that ever lived and rightfully so. I feel privileged to have witnessed part of his golfing career." 

Tiger Woods returns the favor in a CNN interview where he wishes her "the very best."

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Get the whole story including an Elin Nordegren Speaks Video.

Los Angeles Travel &Tourism: Passionista LA Travelogue (VIDEO)

TOP 5 THINGS TO DO IN LOS ANGELES

1. Film Festivals.

2. Good food! Counter Burger, Fresh Oranges, Roscoe's Chicken & Waffles..

3. Venice Beach.

4. Wacky People & Fun LA Characters.

5. Girls' Days and Nights Out.

In April 2010 we shot two AbiolaTV video episodes in Los Angeles: Our LA Travel Diary PLUS When to Meet The Kids.  Don't forget to also check out my LA Flickr Photo Diary.