I'm Abiola and this is The Passionista Playbook, a blog about living your most passionate life. This is also the home of my web TV talk show "Kiss & Tell TV" where I've been keeping it scandalous since 08.
Here's where to find Love, Sex and Dating Advice; Food, Parties and Recipes; and Fun Adventures. I'm an MTV "Made" Teen Dating Empowerment Coach, author of the future bestseller "The Official Bombshell Handbook" and a lifestyle columnist for sites from gURL.com to Yahoo Shine. As seen from Essence Magazine to The New York Times; From MTV to HBO.
Heads up, rockstars!! If you know millionaires looking to be matched by Patti, #MillionaireMatchmaker is casting: http://t.co/C7CCVH6R8:57 PM - 27 January 2012
@JonathanValdez Puh-lease. Don't even pretend to be blushing over there!! lol8:56 PM - 27 January 2012
Underwear models are a strange breed. Awesomely gorgeous creatures like Tyson Beckford, David Bekham, Heidi Klum and Naomi “Duck If You See Her” Campbell preen in tightie whities, bras and panties to convince us mere mortals that if we wear the same drawers we too will look airbrushed, cellulite free and utterly gorgeous.
Now the beautiful Zoe Saldanajoins this elite body-luscious club as the newest sexy face and body of Calvin Klein underwear and Calvin Klein Envy… Continued.
Our episode 11 guests are Kenya K. Stevens & Rakhem Seku, Open Marriage Advocates & porn star Sinnamon Love. PLUS Official Abiola Rockstar BloggeratiLexi B and Pfunk aka @gluonsrule on twitter.
Is Monogamy Hot or Not? And check out an adventure I had earlier in this year in Woodstock, NY asking Are Open Relationships A Good Idea?
The Goddess Passionista Lifestyle is about living life to the FULLEST! If you want to be a good girl gone bad with hot monogamy – or a BAD GIRL GONE WORSE- here are my top 5 Goddess Passionista sex tips!
Abiola’s Passionista Bad Girl Sex Rule # 1 -
Break the routine. When it’s new it’s hot because of the unknown factor. A few years in, you both– or all- know what works.
Change the game. If you always aim for the bed, pull your partner into the kitchen. Or the hallway, depending on where you live. If you get evicted — don’t blame me!!
Abiola’s Passionista Bad Girl Sex Rule # 2 -
Take him to a sex shop or depending on where you live go to a sexy club- or a strip club. You don’t have to partake if that’s not your thing, but ask your partner who’s hot? What does he enjoy?
Talk about the people there then go home and make love to each other. It’s unrealistic that you dude or lady will NEVER be attracted to anyone else.
Abiola’s Passionista Bad Girl Sex Rule # 3 -
Couples spend alot of time in bed stressing over the woman’s orgasm. SLooooowwww down. Calm down. The journey is the destination.
Homework: Look at the clock. Test yourselves. You have to figure out how to amuse each other for the next 2 hours with no penetration.
Abiola’s Passionista Bad Girl Sex Rule # 4 -
Talk dirty to me baby. Tell your partner exactly what to do, where to touch you, how it tastes, and then how it feels.
Abiola’s Passionista Bad Girl Sex Rule #5 -
Don’t worry about looking cute during sex. It’s not a photo shoot, it’s not a sex tape, it’s sex.
Let loose, get sweaty, don’t worry about anything but the moment.
Episode 10 of the weekly live-streaming web series talk showAbiola on LSD: Love, Sex, Dating and Drama, the live edition of Kiss and Tell TV. Guests include: Allison Hobbs, author of Stealing Candy (Zane presents) and Steven James Dixon, author of Men Don’t Heel, We Ho.
Jessica Holter of The Punany Poetshas written a SEXY new Passionista-approved book.
About the new erotic book, ZANE presents The Punany Experience:
Take an unhappy husband with a spoiled and suspicious horny wife, plus an androgynous soft-butch businesswoman with a knack for inflicting pain, an executive assistant with a dog collar and no shame, then add a passive-aggressive pillow princess named to the scene and you have just started a war! The Punany Experience is definitely not your average down low story.
Meet Stormy Talbert, a sexy bisexual, and Korea Smith, an androgynous businesswoman, lovers who begin an affair with Hartford, a married man. He’s not on the down low, just a little curious after his first prostate exam, and the dominant Korea is anxious to help him find the answers he seeks. But in the trenches of the war between the sexes, she just may discover that what is between her legs is the biggest surprise of all.
About Writer / Performer Jessica Holter
Founder of The Punany Poets, Jessica Holter, Ghetto Girl Blue, is a mother, an author, a gifted orator, a talented visual artist and an activist for AIDS awareness and sexual abuse recovery. She created The Punany Poets in 1995 after the untimely death of Eric “Eazy-E” Wright of AIDS. Her theater group, The Punany Poets, has appeared on HBO’s Real Sex, Black Entertainment Television, Playboy TV, London’s Channel 5 and Cinemax. Holter’s sexy stories on in rotation on Playboy Radio (XM) and she has self published six books. Best-selling Author/Publisher Zane compiled her most riveting poetic works into a hardback anthology, Verbal Penetration in2007.
The Punany Experience is Holter’s first novel from Strebor Books. Holter continues to tour the country in live stage plays and cabaret performances. Jessica Holter actively promotes AIDS awareness and female empowerment though her growing line of public service advertisements, print media, audio/radio, video and film and novelties. Visit her at www.punanypoets.com.
Punany Definition from The Urban Dictionary: Well, originally the word “punany” or “punani” was used in India — its in the Kama Sutra — to describe the female sex organ. Indian laborers were used to build roads in Jamaica and the Caribbean during the 1930′s, 40′s and 50′s so a lot of Indian slang made its way into the Jamaican vernacular. There are literally thousands of Jamaican dancehall records glorifying the punany….probably rivaled only by ganja songs.
1. Don’t invite any exes – or even talk about them. The party is about the future not about the past. Your ex is an ex for a reason right? As my aunt says, we don’t eat our vomit.
2. The Guest List should be friends only, no frenemies, has-beens or guys you’re currently dating. This is a celebration about you, you, you.
3. Do it big, like Vienna. Las Vegas, Miami, New York City, Paris. Go all out. Of course if you’re on a budget do it up big in your apartment. Champagne wishes!
4. Encourage but don’t expect gifts. Depending on what’s going on budget-wise for the people you love they may want to gift you with little trinkets. This is not a mandate, however. Got it?
5. Have goodies for your friends who attend. You do, however, want to give gifts to your friends. I’m not saying be all Oprah “you get a car” about it. Some of the cutest things are the cheapest and giving will remind you that you are divine not desperate.
6. Have a good cry before or after the Single and Fabulous party. Tears are cleansing BUT don’t make it a pity party. Pity Parties have different rules!
Only because you were just wondering to yourself, ‘Gee, I wonder what that VIP hostess who got a fat paycheck out of Tiger Woods is up to’ do I bring you this news. Apparently Rachel Uchitel is high demand, but not from Tiger Woods.
Last week she was grandly courted by Donald Trump and announced as the latest star of the upcoming season of Celebrity Apprentice. Well that didn’t take long to crash and burn. One week, actually.
Now that Rachel Uchitel has announced that she will be checking into VH1 Celebrity Rehab, Donald Trump wants nothing to do with her. Continued.
I know official goddesses like writer and activist Megan Carpentier who recently asked women in a New York Press article, “If your vagina could speak, how would she sound and what would she say.”
HERE’S MY ANSWER:
My vagina would have the sing-songy British West Indian accent that you might hear hawking mangoes and coconut milk in a blazing hot market, yes, South of the Border.
She would extol the virtues of her tasty wares in melodious tones that are even danceable at times.
The song would vary depending on the situation so I can’t reveal exact lyrics but I can guarantee that her tunes are richer than any of the Bravo housewife singles!
FASHION STORY CREDITS:Abiola Abrams on-camera; Production by Kristal Mosley for iCreateTV, Mr.& Mr. Christopher Trujillo – Installation Artist/Painter, Michael Jerome – Fashion Designer/Stylist – also worked as the stylist of the fashion looks featured at RFA, Mr. & Mr. – Accessory Design -collaborated on all accessories including jewelry, brooches and handbags. For prices contact: christophertrujilloart@yahoo.com or michaeljeromefrancis@gmail.com.
Looking for love on reality shows is big business. Singer Ray J Norwood was able to pimp two seasons of income from VH1 by “looking for love” and now stars in Family Business, a reality series co-starring his sister Brandy.
Elizabeth “Caviar” Ahmed brought a great deal of amusement to For the Love of Ray J when she was eliminated from season 1 of the dating show for allegedly dating a sketchy character called Chicago Larry. Caviar is going by a new name these days– Bethany Benz, the latest star of a porn company called The Bang Bros Network. Previously she was known as a bikini model and music video dancer.
I thought that the current celebrity porn movement was to have a supposed disgruntled ex leak a sex tape a la Danielle Staub and Kendra Wilkinson or Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian before them. Then you hold a press conference, pretend to be aghast and then crawl away with a handful of cash and some semblance of pretend dignity. Then of course there is the open outspoken approach of new porn star Montana Fishburne.
Bethany Benz AKA Caviar AKA Elizabeth Ahmed is the daughter of a Nigerian father and a Russian mother. She is fluent in Russian and English. Girl, we wish you the best and extend an offer for a clothes-on interview at any time.
If you are a porn star or sex worker looking for training or educational options contact Sex Work Awareness.