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Scandalous Potluck Dinner Party Idea: How to Throw A Sinner’s Dinner #sindin
Picture a co-ed bachelorette party with delicious food and drinks. Potluck style means everyone brings something to eat or drink.
Potluck Dinner Parties are a fantastic way of recession entertaining. This past weekend a few of my friends visited my flat in Harlem for an official Sinner’s Dinner (#sindin) and Potluck. Check it out!
When I was younger I used to feel that parties were about quantity and I would throw these huge extravaganzas. Now I know that it’s all about quality, non quantity. I choose a handful of wonderful and positive people who nourish my soul: Kristal Mosley, producer and on camera talent for the Abiola on LSD show, Twanna Hines the Funky Brown Chick, Yolanda Shoshana, the Modern Courtesan, Nando Rodriguez of Nandoism, Katie of Lost Plum, tech writer Sherri Smith, photographer German Marin and comic Kyle Bostick.
Location & Decor: Our party theme was Sinner’s Dinner so I chose bachelorette party-like decor items like a Penis Party Tray and beaver plates. Vanilla candles by Glade for under 5 bucks!
Did I just mention the TGIF Cocktails before the food!! Only because the TGI Fridays Mudslides were my fave. The drinks are pre-mixed and you just add ice. Good job, Twanna!
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Hosting the African American Literary Awards: What the Heck Was I Wearing?
RANDOM LITERARY AWARDS FASHION DIARY TIDBITS
I felt so “well moisturized,” read oily, that night! 
I had Moroccan Oil in my hair and Carol’s Daughter oil on my skin. I smelled good, but in retrospect it was a wee bit too much!!
I hung the dress temporarily on my dress form so that I can enjoy it!
The $5.00 flip flop sandals I wore because my gown was long enough to cover my feet and I knew I’d be standing for 3 or 4 hours!
Literary Awards Recap: 6th Annual African American Literary Awards
I have had the honor of hosting the African American Literary Awards for the past five years of its six year history. Awards creator Yvette Hayward and East West PR’s Joy Doss recruited me for the unique literary awards show as I was getting started hosting the BET short film competition. Once again heavy hitters from Ebony Magazine to the New York Daily News were on hand to support the African American Literary Awards. This year was definitely my favorite.
Most Memorable Literary Awards Show Moments (for Me)
1) Cornel West. We all know when we’re in the presence of greatness. This year’s show honored Sonia Sanchez, Cornel West, Hill Harper and Terrie Williams. I’d met all of the other nominees but I had never met Dr. Cornel West. I’m still a geek at heart so pop stars be damned. I had no butterflies when interviewing Chris Rock but Cornel West, Gloria Steinem, bell hooks, Eve Ensler, thump thump thump. We received a fantastic lecture that evening about personal power. Bravo!
2) Sonia Sanchez. What else is there to say? Even in my flat flip flops carefully hidden under my gown I towered physically over this diminutive powerhouse but NO ONE towers over this literary giant, this mistress of words, and bender of emotions. Crone power is lost in our society. We don’t honor our elders enough. Sonia Sanchez, we thank you.
2) Actors and African American Literary Award Winners Sherri Shepherd and Hill Harper couldn’t make it to the show because they were both filming in Los Angeles but were kind enough to send fun video speeches saying, thank you.
3) Dawn Richard from Diddy’s Dirty Money and Danity Kane and Beverly Bond brought beauty and grace to the stage in my favorite fashion moments.
4) Terrie Williams was introduced by Oprah author Wes Moore in a powerful moment. If you don’t know who Terrie Williams is, do your research about this caring publicist, author and humanitarian. Several other authors also spoke about Terrie’s generosity and love for others.
5) Carol Mackey of Black Expressions received a round of applause from the authors in the audience. She has supported so many people over the years. I know that Carol was a big supporter of my novel Dare. Check out her new book Sistergirl Devotions.
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Gratitude! Here’s What I’m Grateful for This Week…
- The New York Times for my mention;
- Venus Zine Magazine’s upcoming November Issue;
- Ananda Leekes and Sisterhood the Blog;
- Short and Sweet NYC for including Kiss & Tell Live Revue;
- Kisha Green Author’s Spotlight on Writer’s Vibe
- Kokabella for tweeting about my archived inspirational podcast;
- Jen Cross of Writing Ourselves Whole also for Goddess Factory love;
- Marcy Depina and UN Peace Youth Rally;
- Danielle Holdman of Urbane Perspective Magazine;
- UBO Mag for shouting out Dare,
- Michelle Smith of the Black Women’s Entertainment Network;
- Abigail Ekue, photog extraordinaire,
- Twanna Hines of Funky Brown Chick;
- Demetria Lucas, Kristal Mosley, LexiB & Underground Milli.
Fun Dating Ideas: The Chip Shop in Park Slope, Brooklyn (VIDEO)
Here’s a creative Lifestyle Passionista-approved dating idea perfect for both first dates and date night for married folks; tourists and New Yorkers. Grab your favorite sweets, head over to The Park Slope Chip Shop, and ask them to fry it up. Obviously this is not the date night idea for those with high blood pressure, cholesterol, or calorie counters.
