Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys: Nathan Hale Williams on BBC Radio with Abiola
Passionista Principal: Living well is the best revenge.
Click the link to listen to my interview with Nathan Hale Williams of “Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys”
, there’s Shawn Hollenbach and Paul Case of the Miss Fag Hag Pageant, the ever fab Nathan 7 Scott and that’s just for starters.
.We’ll see you there; and we’ll also be airing a never before heard excerpt of my interview with mogul Kimora Lee Simmons on BBC Radio as well. And if you haven’t had a chance to watch Nathan Hale Williams’ Sundance docu-series Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys please check it out. It’s smart, well done, enjoyable television.
Why Don't Women Like Me Or Find Me Attractive? Love Advice for Men (Reader Mail)
Passionista Principle: No one else can love you if you don’t love you.
Thanks for all of the positive feedback about me being a Love and Empowerment “Ladies Man Coach” on MTV docu-series ‘Made.’ Working with Austin in Atlanta was much more involved than what you saw on the series. I worked with Austin on confidence and self esteem almost 7 days a weeks for 4 weeks.
Working to better ourselves is an on-going process. We’re never finished. I know that I am still a work in progress – a miserable hot mess on some days a shining star on others but no matter what, we must know what we are worth.
I recently received the following letter from a viewer/reader on my facebook page.
Dear Abiola,
I’m such a huge fan of yours and I think you’re awesome and you really help and inspire lots of people.
I was wondering, well, like I been rejected by women a lot my whole life and I always been single and I treat the ladies with respect and everything and always polite but most women rather go for a dude who looks good on the outside instead of inside and I feel I have a lot to offer. What should I do?
-Tomas
Greetings King Tomas,
Thanks SO MUCH for your courageous letter. I LOVE that you’ve always been polite to the women you’re interested in. You ROCK! Here are my thoughts on why you may feel that women don’t like you or find you attractive.
1. So first things first. When you said girls go only for the dudes who look good on the outside I imagined you to be a beastly. I scanned your facebook photos and you’re not bad looking! You can hold your own. You do have a lot to offer.
2. Tomas, I always say that we should have every single quality in ourselves that we’re seeking in the other person. If you are seeking kindness, make sure that you are a kind person to others, etc. Real talk. No bullsh*t.
3. There are lots of guys that we look at and wonder superficially, whoa, how did he get that girlfriend? Tomas, women are not just focused on looks. Women like security, humor, intelligence and excitement. Everybody likes attractive people. But confidence is also really important. Insecurity is never ever cute, Tomas. Ever.
4. When you say women go for loo
ks it makes me think that this does not apply to you. I don’t find you ugly but it doesn’t matter what I think or what a million other women think of you, Tomas. What matters most is what you think of you.
5. If you ask women out in a way that seems like they’re doing you a favor, then you’ve going to attract people who don’t wish you the best. Life is a mirror and the people in our lives reflect back to us what we already think of ourselves.
6. Try online dating. Online dating is a cool way to go because you rule out people who are going to waste your time quickly. You are being pro-active about who you are, what you value and what you are looking for. When you build your online dating profile put your best foot forward. Have a friend take a clear crisp picture of you and go for it!
7. Also, are you sure that you’re not being superficial in the women who you are asking out? Just like you are a well rounded person that brings more than looks to the table than looks make sure that it’s the same with the women you pursue for dating. Try stepping out of the box with women you wouldn’t usually approach.
8. Now when you go out with her, Tomas, I want you to sweep her off of her feet. Make her feel special. Be interested in her. Don’t spend your time talking the whole night. Make sure that you spend time listening too. Be attentive and have fun. Make it clear that you are romantically interested or you will end up i the friend zone.
9. Nobody is saying that you have to be Don Juan or a Ladies Man. Just be the best Tomas you can be. Nice guys really can finish first. Give yourself more credit.
10. Anyone who does not appreciate you for being kind, considerate and caring as you should be does not deserve a front seat in your fantastic life-to-be. There are plenty of women out there that would love to meet you — and you only need ONE. Get out there and find her.
- Austin Becomes a Ladies Man, My Boyfriend Lives At Home, Is He a Player?, Michelle Obama’s Ribs Recipe, Speed Dating Tips, How to Live With More Passion, Kimora’s Love Advice, Positive Affirmations, Safe Sex Pledge and Be a Ladies Man Without Being A Jerk!
Bombshell Cooking: Michelle Obama & the Rib Recipe (Ingredients) via Restaurant Kelly Liken
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Passionista Principle: “You can’t make decisions based on fear and the possibility of what might happen. We just weren’t raised that way.” ~Michelle Obama
and his fellow idiots everywhere are up in arms because the first lady Michelle Obama
ordered and enjoyed bison short ribs at Restaurant Killy Liken while skiing in Vail, Colorado. I guess that I was the only one that heard Michelle Obama repeatedly explain everywhere, including in her Barbara Walters interview, [transcript] that she was not talking about dietary extremism with her childhood obesity plan, but moderation instead. She’s even talked about enjoying bacon!Babeland: My Sexy French Lingerie Recommendations; A-Listed! (PHOTOS)
Passionista Principle: Life is too short not wear party shorts.
Have you considered Babeland for your lingerie needs? Yeah, Babeland, the woman-friendly sex shop that we visited some time ago. [Babeland tour video.] After all, the sexpert owners Claire Cavanah and Rachel Venning wrote the book MoreGasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind Blowing Sex
These are perfect for divorce gifts, bridal shower gifts, breakup gifts and “girl, just because gifts” for you or someone who needs more sexy fun in her life.
Le Petit Secret Lingerie Bra & Panty, $32.00
This next lingerie selection is from the barely there variety. Actually they are not so much lingerie as frilly lacy elastic bands built to accentuate your booty and breasts. I personally call the Le Petit Secret Lingerie panties – the panty-less panties and the Le Petit Secret Lingerie Bra – the bra-less bra. Babeland calls it the lingerie that you can keep on during sex.
The Le Petit Secret Lingerie will definitely be a welcome treat in any boudoir. Trust mama! They were created by French lingerie company Maison Close — and the French know. If you want to purchase the bra separately it is available for $18.00 and buying the panty separately from Babeland.com costs $16.00.
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Be A Guest On The Show: Abiola on LSD: Love, Sex, Dating & Drama!! Season 2
Passionista Principle: FUN is a full time job that we take super seriously… Whoo Hoo!
My weekly one hour web series will be back on Wednesday, March 9th at 9pm right here on AbiolaTV.com. The crazy thing is that our show schedule is all ready packed with super fun, interesting and outrageous guests BUT we want to include you. If we already know you we will be sending out a booking request within the next few weeks.
- Fabulous Authors with relationship and lifestyle books;
- YOU with your love problems;
- Singers and performers
- Kooky & unusual talent casting;
- Experts of all types;
- Abiola’s Rockstar Bloggeratti;
- OR maybe you have a product that would be great for a giveaway PLUS…
- We’re also looking to partner with blogs to make them our Wednesday night viewing network.
Each episode of the LSD Show is seen by a minimum of 40,000 viewers on iTunes and videos are posted and syndicated web-wide.
IF YOU’RE NOT IN NYC: Consider submitting yourself as a GUEST BLOGGER or sending your product for review on my blog. I also do interview some fabulous people by phone as I did with Kimora Lee Simmons.
YOU WILL BE CONTACTED only when and if we are ready to book you. If not we will keep your gorgeousness on file. Please do not get in touch asking if we received your application – we will get in touch if we’re able to partner YOU with the perfect show.
- Austin in Atlanta on MADE Wants to be a Ladies Man, Condom Cases, How to Put On A Condom, How to Get Your Boyfriend to Wear A Condom and of course my Safe Sex Pledge.
MTV ‘MADE’ Ladies Man: Austin & Abiola in Atlanta; Full Episode (VIDEO)
Condom Case Reviews: Durex Love Box vs Just in Case (PHOTOS)
Passionista Principle: It’s not what you do it’s how you do it, Rockstar.
Whether your boyfriend always forgets the condoms, you and your hubbie need prophylactic birth control on the fly or you are prone to unprepared quickies one of these condom cases should work for you.
The Just in Case Condom Case
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| Photo: Uber Chic Just in Case compacts by Abiola Abrams – Please don’t steal my pic! |
Here ye, here ye. I declare that the Just in Case Condom Case is the absolute best condom sheath on the market. I’ll be doing a vlog soon because you must see this case in person.
The Just in Case
You can buy two Just in Case compacts for $23.00
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| Photo: Colorful Durex Love Boxes in my Passionista Penthouse- Please don’t steal my pic! |
The Durex Love Box Condom Case
The Durex Love Box Condom Case is definitely a more down market product than the ready-for-my-closeup Just in Case — but it definitely has its place in the market. I received the fun handful of Durex Love Boxes for condoms pictured above as a gift from my sex blogging brother Nando Rodriguez at my MTV Made Coach Party at the Soho Room in NYC.
Each Durex Love Box
If you’re a tampon case or pencil case kind of girl then check out the Just in Case Condom Case or the Durex Love Box. The Durex condoms site talks about “The Power of Girls,” sex education and being sex first timer so I think that teen girls may be their market for the Durex Love Box. Smart idea as teen pregnancy is on the rise.
What do you think? Would you carry a condom case?
Perfect follow ups to my condom case reviews:
- How to Put On A Condom, How to Get Your Boyfriend to Wear A Condom and of course my Safe Sex Pledge.
Happy Valentine's Day! PLUS Free E-Cards from StarGreetz
Passionista Principle: Read More »My Boyfriend Still Lives At Home With His Parents!!! Luv Em Or Leave Em Dating Advice (VIDEO)
I’m dating a man who is living at home with his parents? Is that ok? Surprising Luv Em Or Leave Em advice below.Passionista Principle: “Deception’s a poison. It’s like margarine.” ~Failure to Launch
Hey Rockstars,This week I was blessed to be a headliner at the Bowery Poetry Club for Sex Worker Literati, Zoe’s Hooker Valentine Day Party. It was wild, fun, bawdy and over the top. And of course, just like when I was in Los Angeles, Atlanta and Woodstock, I took the opportunity to answer one of your love advice questions. As my regular Planet Abiola Rockstars know, every other week, Tina Tobin of Luv Em Or Leave Em assigns a relationship advice question. [Video below.]
This week’s dating question:Dear Abiola,I’ve met someone who I really like and we’re dating. I could even be in love with him. He still lives at home with his parents. Is this ok?Signed,ConfusedDear Confused,Yikes! You’ve got a Boomerang, Failure to Launch, GLAH – Guy Living At Home!
This is not a simple yes-no question. It’s hard to be a ladies man living at home, right? In fact, if you love someone, you’re dating and they still live at home with their parents it is time for you to start asking him questions. Questions like: Um, why do you live at home with your parents? Did you ever leave? Do you have a plan for moving out?
After all we happen to be in the worst recession since 1929 so he or she may have a good excuse. Many cultures, like Caribbean people for instance, are not big on adult kids moving out. Is she or she at home to help the family or take care of ailing parents? And what are your intentions? Are you serious about this person and this relationship?
Ask the questions and then you can answer this love advice question for yourself. Now watch the video!Read More »
