Lifestyle Expert Abiola Abrams

Celebrity Love & Lifestyle Expert & Journalist
Author, Personality, Passionate Living Expert

“I came to this planet to teach others how to live with passion.” -Abiola

Author and Media Personality Abiola Abrams writes books, blogs and columns and broadcasts TV, radio and web series about relationships, sexuality, lifestyle and pop culture. In the past year the Lifestyle Expert has: been a Love, Sex, Dating Columnist Abiola Abramsfeatured Love Columnist on for Yahoo Shine, an MTV Teen Dating Empowerment Coach on the docu-reality series “Made,” reported on celebrity news and relationships as a BBC Radio Entertainment Correspondent, talked about and written about love for Essence, blogged on her lifestyle site “Abiola’s Passionista Playbook,” and hosted/produced her award-winning “Abiola’s Kiss & Tell TV” web talk show and advice vlogs. In addition, she is a recurring Love & Lifestyle Guru on talk shows like the CW Network’s “Bill Cunningham Show.”

Abiola Abrams has hosted lifestyle TV shows like BET’s “The Best Shorts,” HBO’s “The Buzz” and NBC’s “Source: All Access” and appears as a pop culture talking head on networks like FOX. As a social experiment the lifestyle journalist most notoriously went undercover to star as “Miss Picky” on VH1 matchmaker “reality” series “Tough Love.” Abiola was also featured in the Sex Bloggers Calendar to benefit Sex Work Awareness and as a part of her ongoing safe sex initiative she directed the award-winning and critically acclaimed feminist erotica art film, “Afrodite Superstar.” Her social issues short films and documentaries about race, gender and relationships have been shown in festivals, museums and universities from Berlin to New York City.

Abiola’s upcoming book, The Official Bombshell Handbook, is part humorous memoir, part fun handbook, about using the power of the feminine to live with passion. Dare (Simon & Schuster), a hip hop love story, Abiola’s popular debut novel was taught at Amherst College and her provocative writing has been published in anthologies such as Behind the Bedroom Door, Dirty Words: A Literary Encyclopedia of Sex, Say Word: Voices from Hip Hop Theater and Eve Ensler’s A Memory, A Monologue, A Rant and A Prayer.

Recent press includes a current feature in Essence Magazine on African American relationship experts, being named one of “10 Black Women Teaching Us About Sex” on, talking about intimacy and monogamy on Trojan Vibrations’ “Late Night With Logan Levkoff,” being quoted in The New York Times about NY Fashion Week and talking about the Person of the Year on The Judith Regan Show on Sirius XM Radio. Abiola has written for and been written about in publications from Gawker and Jezebel to Paper Magazine and Self.

Abiola is a lead lifestyle & entertainment content contributor (articles, videos, celebrity interviews) in the areas of love, lifestyle, pop culture including advertorial and branded entertainment. She’s interviewed celebrities such as Jackie Collins, Playboy’s Bridget Marquardt, Patti Labelle, Quincy Jones, Chris Rock, Ryan Leslie, Busta Rhymes, Diane Farr, LL Cool J and Henry Louis Gates, Junior. Branded entertainment clients and sites she contributes to include and have included: Pepsi We Inspire, American Airlines’ Black Atlas, HP, Terra Fossil Wine, Yahoo,,, CHEW, Glam Media and Hello Beautiful.

Keynote Speaker Abiola Abrams at Women's Empowerment ConferenceAbiola Abrams talks love, sex, dating and lifestyle in documentaries such as Michael Baisden’s “Do Women Know What They Want?,” Therese Shechter’s “How to Lose Your Virginity” and “In Our Heads About Our Own Hair” directed by Hemanset Angaza. Abiola has also given keynote addresses on empowerment at many schools such as NYU, The New School for Social Research and Howard University and for women at conferences like Single in Stilettos and the upcoming Momentum Convention.

Abiola Abrams has a BA from Sarah Lawrence and an MFA from Vermont College of Fine Arts. She created and curated the Chashama Gallery Manhattan exhibit “Hos, Putas and Dragon Ladies: Our Sexuality Remixed,” “The Goddess Factory” at Rush Arts and VDay’s “Until the Violence Stops Film Festival” at the Museum of The City of NY and the Museum of TV and Radio.

Abiola’s current playground is Harlem, New York City.


Books by Abiola

    Behind the Bedroom Door: Getting It, Giving It, Loving It, Missing It     Dirty Words: A Literary Encyclopedia of Sex


Coming soon

Sexy Memoir and Advice Guide


Indie Films Directed by Abiola

Afrodite Superstar

Knives in My Throat, directed by Abiola

Fashion Week Party in NYC

Abiola’s 2012 Calendar Selects

Private groups and conferences not listed.

  • February
  • Essence Magazine
  • JET Magazine
  • March
  • Passionate U Classes
  • April
  • Momentum Conference Speech
  • Single in Stilettos Speech
  • May
  • Videos
  • June
  • The Official Bombshell Handbook! released.
  • June
  • Women’s Empowerment Conference Speech
  • August
  • BlogHer
  • October
  • Good Vibrations Summit Speech