The wedding proposal should be personal and perfect for the two of you…
American author and motivational speaker Dr. Leo Buscaglia once said, “Find the person who will love you because of your differences and not in spite of them, and you have found a lover for life.” And if you’ve found this person then the next logical step is to make them a permanent part of your life by proposing marriage.
The Element of Surprise
Everyone wants their proposal to be a memorable experience. Whether you drop to one knee and pull out a velvet-covered ring box or have a flash mob sing and dance around your bride-to-be as a prequel to popping the question, your chances of an affirmative answer are more likely if you do your homework beforehand. Don’t be afraid to seek out her mother or best friend for advice, but only if they can keep your surprise a secret.
There are plenty of ways to creatively propose to your future bride while leaving in some element of surprise. Even if she knows that you plan to propose, you can keep details about the when, where, and how a secret right up until the big moment.
Here are some more creative methods others have used to propose with some success in the past.
- Cinema Style – Rent out the movie theater and have all your friends and members of both your families arrive early, taking up seats near the front. Then have the projectionist display a message on the screen that pops the question for you. Once she says yes, arrange to have the lights turned on so you can both share the big moment with all your loved ones who are present.
- X Marks the Spot – Send your future bride on a scavenger hunt to places that are meaningful to both of you, with each spot holding a clue that leads to the next one. At the very last spot, be waiting in your best suit and tie with a bouquet of her favorite flowers and, of course, don’t forget the ring!
- Ask Out Loud – If you’re somewhere with a loudspeaker system, such as a club, a sporting event, or on an airplane, and get permission to use it for the purpose of popping the question. But take it from my friend Bob – the power tools aisle in the local hardware store is not the most romantic place to pop the question. His wife Sally still sighs and shakes her head about it.
- YouTube It – Record spots important to your relationship. In each one, be sure to have some kind of hand-written poster that reads, “This is where we…” It could be where you first met, first kissed, et cetera. And then the last poster should read “This is where I asked you to marry me” and be filmed in the spot where you are watching the video.
- Get Culinary – Mariachi bands are not as trendy as you’d think. However, a violinist playing “your” song at a restaurant, tucking the ring into a glass of champagne, or asking the chef to work will you marry me into the dessert with chocolate or raspberry syrup are all memorable ways to pop the question.
- Bake It – Ask a local bakery about preparing her favorite cheesecake and writing the phrase on the top. If she isn’t into cheesecake, try a big cookie – or better yet, small cookies shaped into letters of the alphabet that spell out will you marry me.
- Ask in a Ringtone – Sneak a ringtone of your voice asking for her hand in marriage onto her phone and set it as the one that sounds when you call her. Then, while she’s least expecting it, call her up and have the ringtone ask on your behalf. This is especially good if you’re too nervous to ask her outright.
Selecting the Perfect Ring
When picking out the ring, it’s important to know what the askee likes and dislikes. A good way to find out is to take her shopping beforehand. For instance, you can use the excuse that you’re looking at low prices on diamond earrings as a gift for your mother or sister. Once you get your beloved into the jewelry shop, you can ask her opinion about what she looks for in a diamond without looking as suspicious.
Even if something goes wrong or you manage to botch the proposal, the important thing is that she knows that your efforts are heartfelt and genuine. If it’s true love then hopefully she still says yes. After all, someday you can look back and laugh as you tell your children and grandchildren about it.
Freelance writer Sophie Evans is happily married to her husband Rick, who did a fine job when it came time to pop the question. They now live in Balboa Beach, California with their son and daughter. When writing about anything related to engagements and weddings, Sophie uses sites like LoveDiamonds.net to both learn new things and get a different perspective on the topic.
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