Love Advice

Our mothers had "Dear Abby" and we have "Dear Abiola." The love and lifestyle columnist shares her advice on how to live your most passionate life.

How to Avoid Holiday Fights & Misunderstandings: Must-Read Cheat Sheet for Couples

For some of us the jolly sound of a fat man singing "ho, ho, ho" is sacred. For others, it's a nuisance. Here's how to make sure you're still together after the holidays... Ah,...

Spiritpreneur School 23! Minister & Entrepreneur Kia Granberry-Moore on Marketing, Authenticity & Finding Your...

Let's talk about finding your voice... Hey Sacred Bombshell, Spiritpreneur School time, join me for a powerful, spiritual, inspirational, and motivational conversation with minister and entrepreneur Kia Granberry-Moore of LiveLoveKia.com. Over a year or so ago,...
Find Your Soulmate Online in Six Simple Steps by Dr. Diana Kirschner

Love School for Nerds Podcast – Ep41: Lost Beyond Love (Audio)

This week on Love School for Nerds, Jay and Abiola discuss a letter from a woman who has met someone at her job and cheated with him while being married. She is lost in...

Advice Columnist Chat! A Convo about Love and Self-Esteem on ‘Essence Live’ (Video)

I'm an advice columnist for Essence.com. My "Dear Abiola" column dissects your relationship dilemmas every Tuesday. Last week I made a live appearance on the fun, new, high-energy talk show, "Essence Live." I answered...

Love School for Nerds Podcast: Episode 40! ‘Dear Abiola & Jay, Will My Heart...

This week on Love School for Nerds, we discuss a letter from a woman who has been cheated on by her husband. She wants to make it work but the mother of the child that...

Love School for Nerds Podcast, Episode 39! ‘Dear Abiola & Jay, I Want to...

This week on Love School for Nerds, we answer a letter from a man who is trying to spice things up in the bedroom with his wife of 17 years. He is frustrated with initiating and...

Pink Wisdom! What You Need to Know About Your Relationships and Self-Worth

Alison Chase is creator of the site WakeUpToBreakUp.com. She is also the author of "Dear John..., which she co-authored with John Leuba. She interviewed me for her exciting new venture Pink Wisdom about your relationships...

Should You Settle? What Settle-Free Means – And What Settling Doesn’t Mean (Video)

Should you settle? The Settle-Free Dating Method for Single Women... A short video to celebrate Tinzley Bradford's new book! Let's talk about what settling means when it comes to love and life. (Photo of the...

Settle-Free Dating Advice for Single Women from Tinzley Bradford! On Mommy Noire

This week on my Mommy Noire column, I spoke with Tinzley Bradford about single mothers and relationships. Head over there to see what she had to say on the controversial topic on this link. Keep reading...

Abiola’s Dating Zen! Mindfulness and the Tao of Love (Video)

Self-being, mindfulness, nowness, or living in the present warrants a whole chapter in The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love. Here, I join my matchmaker friend Suzanne Oshima to talk about the importance of mindfulness...

On ESSENCE.com: Dear Abiola, My Husband Cheated with an Old Hamburger and I am...

This week on my ESSENCE column, a woman can't get over her husband's affair with the neighbor, especially because the neighbor looks different from her. Have you ever been cheated on? Have you ever...

‘Dear Abiola, What is Post Traumatic Love Disorder?’ Talking Single in Stilettos! (Video)

Dating and Self Love Advice for Women: Post Traumatic Love Disorder... Hello Sacred Bombshell, It is always a pleasure to dialogue with my sacred sister Suzanne Oshima. Here we discuss Post Traumatic Love Disorder. You can read...

Bombshell Confidential! ‘Dear Abiola, How do I Feel My Feminine Energy Sexiest?’ (Essence Magazine)

A well balanced sacred bombshell feels empowered in every aspect of her life... from the boudoir to the boardroom. Bonus: Be sure to watch my sacred flirting video workshop after the jump...   Dear Abiola, Can you share...

Love School for Nerds Podcast, Episode 38: ‘Dear Abiola & Jay, Is My Relationship...

This week on Love School for Nerds, Jay and Abiola discuss a letter from a woman who seems to be in a no win relationship with her husband. Issues of trust, respect, and getting...

Project Body Love Day 27 of 30! The Right to Speak Out & Not...

A lesson in how to take back your life and take back the night... Ms. Beverly Johnson, I have your back. I stand with you. I applaud your courage and your voice. Thank you for modeling...