Whole Life Detox Program hi, i’m abiola!

Consider me your go-to Self-Love Breakthrough Coach, Love Columnist & Empowerment Author based in New York City. I help extraordinary women (and by proxy, enlightened men) realize their juiciest lives by tapping into the power of self-love. I coach clients one-on-one and in groups: in person, via telephone, Google Hangout or Skype. In addition, I speak to civic organizations and educational institutions about self-worth, offer laser coaching as a lifestyle expert on TV, radio and the web and write books, blogs and columns about living with passion.

My “beat” is: self-worth and self-esteem via healing feminine power, love, the mind-body-spirit. I came to this planet to share the secrets of living with more verve and positive energy than we ever thought possible.

It may say journalist and coach on my official forms, but if we’ve worked together then you know that I am the midwife for your inner life and your intuitive conjure woman.

For the past 15 years my work has been about women getting to be who we really are. Masks off. No more holding back. Let’s do it. Life is not meant to be a passive experience. It’s a passionate experience!

If you were looking for a sign THIS IS IT. It’s time to Live Your You-ness.

I am here for you. Please get in touch.

Love Coach Abiola



 the love-body-spirit™ maven

Frequently Answered Questions:

HOMETOWN: New York City born Goddess of Guyanese Parentage.

NAME: Both of my parents claimed to have named me. Abiola is a  Nigerian Yoruba name meaning joy, born on the first or born into wealth depending on who you ask. It is a very common name in my parents’ country, Guyana, South America. There are at least 5 people in the United States also named “Abiola Abrams.”

FAMILY HISTORY: I am a fourth generation empowerment specialist. My great-grandmother was a midwife and women’s fertility healer. My mother is a Shakespeare-quoting ex-schoolteacher. Her aunt who raised her ran a de facto Bed and Breakfast known locally as “The White House.” My father is a journalist, minister and Ivy League grad. My sister is brilliant visual artist Damali Abrams and my brother is a professional tech genius. Both of my grandfathers were hard-working farmers with my amazing grandmothers making it work at home. Like “Ma,” my great-granny, I help women give birth to themselves. I stand on the majestic shoulders of all those who came before.

MY FAVORITE PROJECTS: I have been blessed to create and participate in amazing work but my faves include: my new advice guide “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love,” my debut novel “Dare: A Love Story;” my award-winning documentary “Knives in My Throat;” my BET Show “The Best Short Film Competition;” coaching on the MTV show “Made,” and of course, my Essence Magazine and Madame Noire advice columns.

FAVORITE CAUSE: I offer coaching scholarships for female veterans of the Iraqi wars. I also am an advocate of Eve Ensler’s VDay movement which aims to stop violence against women and girls worldwide.

Abiola Abrams COACHING METHODOLOGIES: My unique Sacred Breakthrough Coaching process is based on tapping into feminine power with life-changing healing modalities including: life mapping, guided visualization, emotional freedom technique, art therapy tools, cognitive behavioral work, spiritual support, and neuro-linguistic work..

EDUCATION: My undergrad degree is from Sarah Lawrence College and I have an Master’s Degree from Vermont College of Fine Arts. I received my life coach certification from the American Union of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

PERSONAL BACKGROUND: After a 10 year relationship and a dream wedding, I learned the man I thought was my soulmate no longer wanted a monogamous relationship with me. I was recreating familial patterns of anxiety and infidelity. Anxiety and self-loathing manifested for me in several forms including people pleasing and disordered eating that started in my childhood when my family and I were bullied for not being “real Americans.” The cure for living a stunted half-life was to learn how to release suffering and choose to live as who I really am.

FUN RECENT STUFF: In addition to giving advice on networks like the CW I have given lifestyle advice and coaching on a number of other shows and documentaries.

GUILTY PLEASURES: I indulge in all of the juicy joy that life has to offer. For example, I am an 80/20 vegan. That means that I eat completely clean 80% of the time and the other 20% I eat whatever vegetarian treats I want. The goal is to never feel guilt or shame for any of your choices. Yay!

Find out why I became a coach plus more frequently asked questions here.
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about america’s self-love coach

You’ve heard Abiola’s life-changing, “wake up call” advice, haven’t you?


Short Bio

Our mothers had Dear Abby and we have Dear Abiola. She’s the Olivia Pope of your personal life. Consider it handled with her trademark Sacred Breakthrough Method that helps breakthrough fear and the inner voices that keep us playing small.

Abiola Abrams, the author of The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love, is known for laser coaching and giving bold and empowering advice on networks from MTV to the BBC. In addition to being an in-demand motivational speaker, life coach, multi-platform author, and ESSENCE love advice columnist, Abiola writes and broadcasts about the heart-centered lifestyle and reclaiming your personal power.

Whether you call her America’s Self-Love Coach, the Midwife for Your Inner Life, or a modern day conjure woman, Abiola is who you want to call when you get into a sticky wicket. It’s time to become who we were born to be, and Abiola has the tools to help us get there.


Long Bio

Passionate living breakthrough coach and writer Abiola Abrams has spent the last 10+ years using the media to empower women. The personal development coach and author of “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love” gives advice and produces media about self-worth, relationships and how to live with passion. Abiola has been a featured columnist on prominent sites like Essence, Madame Noire, Yahoo Shine and gURL.com.

In addition, she is a recurring love, self-esteem and lifestyle guru on talk shows like the CW Network’s “Bill Cunningham Show” and documentary TV like MTV’s “Made.” Black Enterprise Magazine named her self-development blog which hosts her award-winning web series, one of the top African American lifestyle blogs. She also reported on celebrity relationships and personal issues as a BBC Radio entertainment correspondent.

Abiola gives keynote speeches on empowerment at schools such as NYU and for women at conferences like Single in Stilettos. Abiola has also hosted lifestyle TV shows like BET’s “The Best Shorts,” HBO’s “The Buzz” and NBC’s “Source: All Access.” As a social experiment the lifestyle journalist went undercover to star as “Miss Picky” on VH1 matchmaker “reality” series “Tough Love.” As a part of her ongoing safe sex education initiative she directed the award-winning and critically acclaimed feminist erotica art film, “Afrodite Superstar.” Her social issues short films and documentaries about race, gender and relationships have been shown in festivals, museums and universities from Berlin to New York City. She created and curated the Chashama Gallery Manhattan exhibit “Hos, Putas and Dragon Ladies: Our Sexuality Remixed,” “The Goddess Factory” at Rush Arts and VDay’s “Until the Violence Stops Film Festival” at the Museum of The City of NY and the Museum of TV and Radio.

Dare (Simon & Schuster), a hip hop love story, Abiola’s popular debut novel was taught at Amherst College. Her provocative writing has been published in anthologies such as Behind the Bedroom Door, Dirty Words, Say Word: Voices from Hip Hop Theater and Eve Ensler’s A Memory, A Monologue, A Rant and A Prayer. Abiola talks dating, self-worth and lifestyle in documentaries such as Michael Baisden’s “Do Women Know What They Want?,” Therese Shechter’s “How to Lose Your Virginity” and “In Our Heads About Our Own Hair” directed by Hemanset Angaza and PBS-funded “Black Folks Don’t.

Abiola Abrams is a certified NLP life wellness coach, has a BA from Sarah Lawrence and an MFA from Vermont College of Fine Arts. Abiola’s first professional project after college was writing and starring in “Goddess City,” the first recognized hip hop theater play. The show covered women’s issues around love and self-esteem and won her Cosmopolitan Magazine‘s Fun, Fearless, Female Award. Abiola’s been living juicy and inviting her sisters along ever since. Are you in?

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sacred bombshell platform

Abiola’s brand new advice and healing lifestyle guide, “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love,” has been nominated for an African American Literary Award for Best Self-Help Book. The other esteemed nominees in the category include: Iyanla Vanzant, Russell Simmons, and Bishop T.D. Jakes.


African American Literary Awards Self-Help BooksAbiola has worked her magic as:

  • A featured Love and Lifestyle Advice Columnist on Essence Yahoo Shine, Mommy Noire and gURL plus online dating sites like Match.com.
  • A recurring Relationship & Lifestyle Expert for the CW’s “Bill Cunningham Show;”
  • An MTV Teen Dating Empowerment Coach on the docu-reality series “MADE;”
  • A recurring Love Expert for publications like Essence Magazine and JET Magazine;
  • An empowerment speaker at universities and conferences such as “NYC Women’s Empowerment Summit,” “Single In Stilettos,” “Good Vibrations Summit,” Al Sharpton’s “State of Black Relationships” and “Flatbush AIDS Day“; Host of live shows like “The Reel Sisters of the Diaspora Film Festival.”
  • Creative Director & Editor of this award-winning lifestyle site and Host /Producer of her award-winning lifestyle web talk show and advice vlogs;
  • Featured expert on relationships, self-esteem and lifestyle in documentaries such as Michael Baisden’s “Do Women Know What They Want?,” Therese Shechter’s “How to Lose Your Virginity,” Janks Morton’s “Hoodwinked,” Public Media’s “Black Folks Don’t” series and “In Our Heads About Our Own Hair”;
  • Educator on healthy living Adult Education sites like Gasm.org and Passionate U with love and lifestyle content syndicated on sites like Healthy You Now;
  • A BBC Radio Entertainment Correspondent speaking about love and life;
  • Over 2 million advice “clients” served with 2,000,000+ views on her YouTube Advice Channel;
  • PLUS She was named one of the “Top 10 Women Teaching About Sex” by Clutch Magazine, “Top 20 Black Bloggers” by Black Enterprise Magazine, chosen “Dating Expert to Know” by DatingWebsite.com and named a “Top 10 Safe Sex Blog” by Get Tested.

 Social Media Reach

Abiola is a lead lifestyle & relationships content contributor who has interviewed celebrities, intellectuals, authors and luminaries such as Quincy Jones, Jackie Collins, Chris Rock, Patti Labelle, LL Cool J, Henry Louis Gates, Jr. and more about living their best lives. Branded entertainment clients and sites have included: Pepsi We Inspire, American Airlines’ Black Atlas, HP, Terra Fossil Wine, Yahoo, Glam Media and Hello Beautiful. 

  • Twitter: @abiolatv 19K+ followers;
  • Facebook: 8K+ followers/likes
  • YouTube: 2 million + video views;
  • Tumblr: 1K+ followers;
  • Pinterest: 2500 followers;
  • Instagram: 2K followers
  • Blog: 1K+ Visitors Daily;
  • Google:+ 3,600+ followers;


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abiola’s books  

Sacred Bombshell Advice Guide

Dare by Abiola Abrams


Dirty Words: A Literary Encyclopedia of Sex