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Love School for Nerds Podcast #32! ‘Dear Abiola & Jay, I Have to Choose Between My Husband & My Son!’ (Audio)

This week on Love School for Nerds, Jay Jackson-Rao of The Nerdpocalypse and Abiola discuss a letter from a woman who is torn between here new husband and their meant-to-be love relationship and her young adult son. She feels like she finally has a second chance of love but it is all going up in smoke! Having to make choices as to whether to help her son with his life or send him out on his own like her new husband prefers. Its quite the dilemma for the entire family. Listen in to see how Jay and Abiola break this one down and give the best advice possible. Subscribe to the Love School for Nerds Podcast on iTunes.

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‘I Am So Grateful.’ Yaddie’s Reflections on The Sacred Bombshell Goddess Healing Circle with Abiola Abrams and Tia Johnson

This weekend it was my pleasure to host a healing circle in Harlem to address fear. Imagine my JOY and YAY-ment when one of our Sacred Bombshell Goddess Circle workshop participants announced that she was Ms. Grear Yaddie Turnbull, our long time astrological sister. We’ve never met in person and she has no pictures online. 

We have great love for the wonder-filled astrologer Grear Yaddie Turnbull here on the Sacred Bombshell Blog. She has been a blog sister through our many iterations. Her insights are poignant Find her astrological predictions for 2014 here.

Of course, we had to invite this wonder-woman to bless us with her post-event insight. 

I’ve left in all of the wonderful grammatically magical Grear-isms so that you can catch the full meaning of her unique way of writing and communicating.

Be sure to observe the ArchAngel exercise Grear shares below. By the way, my workshop co-host, healer Tia Johnson also shared an ArchAngel Meditation with us in this workshop. xoxo -aa

Take it away, Gorgeous Grear… 

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“Are These Brussels Sprouts Vegan?” A Caveat Vegan Experience at the Fab Neely’s BBQ Parlor in NYC

“Food Network celebrities Pat and Gina Neely are successful examples of hard work, opportunity and strong business savvy.

Neely’s Barbecue Parlor embraces the talents of the Neelys, featuring authentic barbecue, as well as their highly regarded Southern Style comfort food. Diners enter a restaurant drenched with ‘down home’ sensibility, as rooms flow from one to the next with hand selected vintage furniture and accessories.

Each piece tells a story. Exuding the charm of a southern home, the individual character of each room lays the perfect backdrop for private parties. From the bright Sitting Room to the lush Living Room, diners will find the perfect spot to immerse themselves into the Neely’s experience of amazing food and fantastic service time after time.” – from their site. Featured photo from Wikipedia.

Goddess City Empowerment with Abiola Abrams Antoy Grant

Sacred Bombshell Goddess Circle in Harlem! How We Confronted Fear (Photo Diary)

Around 2001, I started holding private Goddess Circles in my East Harlem apartment with friends and acquaintances. At one gathering, we passed around a rock as a talking stick, meaning whoever had the rock had the floor. It was a Saturday afternoon and beauties like the light worker Yolanda “Shoshi” Shoshana were present. A woman confessed that she was “sick of feeling dead inside.” Another co-signed. Each told a different version of the superwoman syndrome story: burning the candle at both ends, never feeling like you’re enough, caught up in trying to get “there” and then feeling lonely and like an impostor when you achieve success.

I felt all of this then, in my 20s, and it only became more intense. I grew up believing that the only way to be loved was through achievement. ” – From The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love

And by the way, that’s a flashback photo of me with my girl, Antoy Grant, in our women’s empowerment play, “Goddess City.” We created the ultimate healing empowerment spaces in theaters as our show covered controversial and taboo topics from colorism to female genital circumcision. My name was the Goddess of Nerve, Antoy was the Goddess of Fever, and Kimberly Howard, pictured with us, represented the Goddess of Truth.

JD Roberto, A biola Abrams, Kristina Behr on Better TV Show

How to Have a Self-Love, Self-Care, Weekend of YOU! My Advice on the Better TV Show (Video)

Question: Are you taking time to care for yourself in addition to the people you love?

Lifestyle expert journal. I just taped an episode of BetterTV Show with super hosts JD Roberto & Kristina Behr! We’re talking about The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love and having a much-needed Weekend of YOU…

By the way, my episode also featured an interview with Jenny McCarthy, Chef Chaz Brown of Seoul Chicken and shoes, glorious shoes from Gwen Stefani’s new fashion line.

Restore, replenish, recharge, retreat…

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Want to Rise & Shine? How to Resist the Tyranny of ‘Normal’! (Video Lecture)

These flashback photos from a few years ago are so much fun. You can’t even tell how nervous I was during the photo shoot. I had the “who does she think she is” and “I don’t want to make a fool of myself” inner bully voices in my head turned way up. Still, it was such an empowering experience standing on the streets on New York City taking these outrageous photos that expressed my inside on the outside.

It may sound like an exaggeration but something shifted within my perception of self with this photo shoot. Baby steps, that’s the way to evolution, self-love, and self-reinvention…

Watch the recent empowerment lecture I gave on how to rise and shine, and then check out my Instagram mini diary about resisting the tyranny of normal.

Nor·mal adjective \ˈnȯr-məl\

  • : usual or ordinary : not strange
  • : mentally and physically healthy
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Hope vs. Faith! Do We Have to Choose? International #HopeDay Thoughts

When I came upon this glorious new hope sculpture in New York City, it started me thinking about hope vs. faith.

Oh, what sculpture?

Via The New York Daily News: “The artist synonymous with the iconic “Love” sculpture that has a new shutterbug-friendly sculpture in town. Robert Indiana’s $3 million, 13-foot tall, 3-ton pop art sculpture “Hope” was moved to the corner of 7th Ave. and 53rd Street [for] International Hope Day. The artist wants visitors to take selfies and post them to social media using the hashtag #HopeDay.”

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‘Why Your Joy Matters Most!': Author Nikki Woods of Tom Joyner’s Black America Web Interviewed Me (Video)

Nikki Woods is a Tom Joyner Morning Show Diva (contributor and producer), #OWNAmbassador, Business Owner and Mommy! Nikki is also the author of “Easier Said Than Done,” is a Social Media and Personal Branding Coach, Motivational Speaker, and Voice-over artist. Her popular web series is named “Beyond the Studio” on Black America Web where she has interviewed folks who have something to share like Pharrell Williams and me…

Oh — that’s a flashback photo of me from a few years ago from the opening credits of my web TV show. Fun throwback pic, right? Cat ears not included.


Happy Autumnal Equinox! Welcome to Fall & Why Our Seasons Matter to Our Spirit

It’s the first day of a new season… From my Instagram Photo Diary.

Via “Today is the autumnal equinox. And more so than any other time of year, it’s the point at which we should be thinking about balance. It’s one of only two days in the year when day and night are of equal length (the spring equinox being the other), and so it’s a great time to focus on balance.”

In the northern hemisphere, it’s the start of autumn, and signals a shift to the darker half of the year. (In the southern hemisphere, it’s the opposite – it’s the spring equinox there.)

The Leo Birthday Horoscope (Yay) PLUS YOUR August Astro Affair Zodiac by Grear

I Confess! What Neglecting My Hair Says About My Own Self-Love (Video)

A natural hair diary…

Via Wikipedia: “Self-esteem is a term used in psychology to reflect a person’s overall emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, “I am competent,” “I am worthy”) and emotions such as triumph, despair, pride and shame. Smith and Mackie define it by saying “The self-concept is what we think about the self; self-esteem, is the positive or negative evaluations of the self, as in how we feel about it.” Self-esteem is also known as the evaluative dimension of the self that includes feelings of worthiness, prides and discouragement. One’s self-esteem is also closely associated with self-consciousness.”

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Join Me for a Goddess Healing Circle & Sacred Bombshell Book Signing with Violet Sanctuary’s Tia Johnson

Would you like to connect with amazing women to share positive energy, blessings, bonding, and books?

Join me for a Sacred Bombshell Sister Circle at Sisters Uptown Bookstore and Cultural Center in Harlem, New York. 

We’ve been talking about women, friendship, and finding your tribe, right? Here’s your tribe!

I’ll be joined by Tia Johnson, “To Be Goddess” author and founder of Violet Sanctuary.