Abiola Abrams – Black Women Healing Coaching Meditation

Inner Bully Redux: The Shadow of The Inner Critic (For Mental Health Week)

“Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.” That’s a lie — and the most damning words often come from ourselves. We say things to ourselves that we wouldn’t say to our worst enemies. I share tactics and healing techniques on how to make peace with and change the impact of the Inner Critic in the Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love.

Let’s talk about it. The photo is from an upcoming shoot I did for the web series “The Drive.”

InstaDiary Bonus: Please find a video of a great conversation that I had with singer Amel Larrieux on the topic after the jump…

We Call It Ochro in Guyana and Okra One of My Favorite Foods! Nutritional Benefits & Recipe

We Call It “Ochro” in Guyana — and Okra is One of My Favorite Foods! Nutritional Benefits & Recipe

Okra (Abelmoschus esculentus Moench), known in many English-speaking countries as ladies’ fingers, bhindi, bamia, or gumbo, is a flowering plant in the mallow family. It is valued for its edible green seed pods.

The geographical origin of okra is disputed, with supporters of West African, Ethiopian, and South Asian origins. The plant is cultivated in tropical, subtropical and warm temperate regions around the world. -via Wikipedia


Author Abiola Abrams, Sacred Bobmshell Handbook of Self-Love

What’s My Advice to Up-And-Coming Writers? SORMAG Asked and I Answered! (Plus Video)

SORMAG, or Shades of Romance Magazine, is an online magazine for readers and writers. LaShaunda Hoffman founded Shades Of Romance Magazine because of her love of African-American romance novels and the lack of support for these books and writers. SORMAG was an extension of an online forum called Aspiring African-American Romance Writers she started on delphiforums way back in 1999. Then SORMAG became a bi-monthly online magazine. They featured their first online conference in 2001 and now they host one every other year. The magazine evolved to feature not only romance but all literature, writing, and good books. 


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Ego-Trippin’? There May be a Reason Why! Poetry Break by Nikki Giovanni

National Poetry Day was October 2nd but National Poetry Month is in April. World Poetry Day is March 21st. Oh, and Poet’s Day is August 21st. Haiku Poetry Day is April 17th. Confusing? Yes, but we all need more poetry in our lives. Poetry is a sacred connection to the divine.

“Yolande Cornelia “Nikki” Giovanni Jr. is a writer, commentator, activist, and educator. Nikki Giovanni was born in Tennessee to Yolande Cornelia, Sr. and Jones “Gus” Giovanni. She grew up in a suburb of Cincinnati and in 1960 began her studies at her grandfather’s alma mater, Fisk University. In 1967, she graduated with honors with a B.A. in History. Afterward she went on to attend the University of Pennsylvania and Columbia University.

In 1969 Giovanni began teaching at Rutgers University, and since 1987, she taught writing and literature at Virginia Tech, where she is a University Distinguished Professor. She has received the NAACP Image Award several times, received twenty honorary doctorates, the Rosa Parks Woman of Courage Award, and the Langston Hughes Award for Distinguished Contributions to Arts and Letters.” – Via Wikipedia

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How to Re-Create Your Life! I’m Speaking in Atlanta at Single Wives Club’s ‘Be Your Own Boss’ Summit (Chat Transcript)

I’m a Speaker at The Single Wives Club’s BYOB, Be York Own Boss Business Summit in Atlanta.

About The Single Wives Club: “Est. 2011; Single women preparing to become wives while living happy, healthy, wealthy lives. #SingleWivesWeekend is October 17th to the 19th.

Single Wives Affirmation: I am living the wife life by welcoming opportunities for growth & self-development. Investing in myself. Focusing on the positive. Encouraging & supporting one another.”


Is It a Contradiction for Those Who Profess Self-Love to Wear Makeup, a Hair Weave, Push Up Bra, or Stilettos?

“The Sacred Feminine Law of Nizhoni, Beauty as a Spiritual Practice:

The Sacred Bombshell embraces beauty as a spiritual practice. She knows that at any moment she can make the decision to be beautiful or to enjoy beauty. This is sacred Nizhoni.

The bombshell need only rise to her true magnificence and step into her greatness. All beautifulness or ugliness she sees in her world shines forth from her. The beauty she admires in others is her own divine light being reflected.” –Excerpted from The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love

Marilyn Monroe and Carey Grant in Monkey Business

The Sacred Art of Flirting! A ‘Single in Stilettos’ Conversation with Matchmaker Suzanne Oshima (VIDEO)

Let’s talk about how to get your flirt on. Suzanne Oshima, top matchmaker and dating coach, interviewed me for her “Single in Stilettos” series. I’ve had many collaborations with Suzanne and I’m proud to say that she said that this was the best one yet.

You know what that means? It means that this is a must-watch love class. Check it out!

By the way, the featured photo is Marilyn Monroe and Cary Grant in the 199 film, “Monkey Business.” Now there was a woman who understood the principles of flirting.

“Flirting or coquetry is a social and sometimes sexual activity involving verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to another, suggesting an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person. In most cultures, it is socially disapproved for a person to make explicitly sexual advances, but indirect or suggestive advances (i.e., flirting) may at times be considered acceptable. On the other hand, some people flirt playfully, for amusement.” – via Wikipedia

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Love School for Nerds Podcast #32! ‘Dear Abiola & Jay, I Have to Choose Between My Husband & My Son!’ (Audio)

This week on Love School for Nerds, Jay Jackson-Rao of The Nerdpocalypse and Abiola discuss a letter from a woman who is torn between here new husband and their meant-to-be love relationship and her young adult son. She feels like she finally has a second chance of love but it is all going up in smoke! Having to make choices as to whether to help her son with his life or send him out on his own like her new husband prefers. Its quite the dilemma for the entire family. Listen in to see how Jay and Abiola break this one down and give the best advice possible. Subscribe to the Love School for Nerds Podcast on iTunes.